You're Not Just Two People Trying to Survive This...
You are two wounded people learning — and unlearning — new things.
You are two of God's children holding a powerful testimony in the making.
Sometimes restoration doesn't look like staying together...
But restoration is a promise for each of you — no matter what.
Learn About Couples Coaching →Explore All Support Options
However You Need Support, We Meet You There.
Whether you're walking this alone or alongside him, here's exactly what each pathway includes.
A full pathway through Rooted, Refined, and Restored — with a level of support that fits her time, budget, and need.
- 3 tier options — solo, at your pace (or Couples Support, together)
- On-demand video modules, phase-specific to where you are — taught by Dani, APSATS Certified
- The Garden — a free peer community, moderated by our team, for any woman of Christian faith navigating betrayal recovery
- Supported & Held Tiers: phase-specific virtual, interactive small groups 2x monthly, led by Dani or another team member for deeper connection with safe community
- Discounts on other offerings
Non-clinical, faith-centered support — sobriety first, then the deeper work of becoming a safe, trustworthy man.
- Individual accountability coaching with Derek
- RITE Course (Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy) — An on-demand course with 13 lessons that are self-paced, plus live group access for growth, Q&A, and accountability
- Tough Love Growth Community for virtual, interactive accountability, discipleship, and vulnerable, authentic connection
- Full Therapeutic Disclosure support, done directly with our coaches or in collaboration with other professionals you're working with
- Referrals coordinated for anything beyond coaching's scope
Couples coaching with Danielle, alongside continued individual support for each of you — the shape of your sessions changes as you grow.
- Monthly couples coaching with Danielle, length & frequency by phase
- Individual coaching continues for her and for him each month
- Her Garden community + his Tough Love community, both included
- Session structure shifts from Rooted into Refined, by design
- Course discounts for both partners at every level
The most important thing to understand about couples work after betrayal.
Intimate betrayal breaks the attachment bond — which is what causes the trauma known as betrayal trauma.
When a couple does "couples work," it is essential that the kind of work being done is specific to what each partner has done in their own individual recovery.
Unfortunately this isn't considered in generic couples work, and the result is often more damage done to one or both people in the relationship — for a variety of reasons.
For one, when one partner is deeply hurting and the other doesn't yet have the empathy and repair skills needed to provide the safety that she needs, she is left to feel alone and hopeless in her pain.
Meanwhile, he may be wanting and trying to learn how to live a life of integrity — maybe for the first time in decades…
Only now, while also having to face all the shame, guilt, and remorse. If he does want to save the marriage, he is likely living in fear of losing her and his family — however, without healthy coping or communication skills.
She is trying to survive what feels like the end of everything she believed was real. She is feeling angry, hurt, confused, scared, and highly reactive due to the unknown.
The truth is, he is likely feeling the same things, for different reasons…
Confused about his own choices, angry at himself and sometimes her, and scared of losing her, or saying the "wrong thing"...
Plus shame, creating a desire to run and hide, making connection and empathy very challenging!
As you probably know, as this is likely your experience too…
We get it, and we want to help you not just feel seen and understood, but to also get you the tools both of you need to stop the perpetual cycles you are in!
Both partners need supportive help from specialists who can meet each of them right where they are — with high accountability, gentle support, and evidence-based approaches consistently throughout each phase of the journey.
Couples-Centered Recovery is critically important for the best chance of reconciliation — and yet, what we do and when we do it matters immensely.
"The most powerful couples work happens when both partners are doing their own work at the same time."
For Couples Work to Be Effective, Certain Conditions Need to Be Met
We are unable to begin or continue couples work if there is:
- Any active emotional or physical abuse from either partner
- Domestic violence within the relationship, past or present
- An active, ongoing mental health crisis — including suicidal ideation, active psychosis, or any immediate safety concern
For couples work to be effective, both partners must be ready and willing to bring:
- Abstinence from addictive behavior(s), and no active, ongoing affairs
- Emotional sobriety through consistent recovery work
- HHOW — Honesty, Humility, Open-mindedness, and Willingness — from both partners (covered in detail in the video modules)
- Full commitment to the process, from both of you — not just one
- Addressing any and all patterns of behavior getting in the way of the work — including but not limited to unmanaged anxiety or depression, lying, or trauma triggers that lead to verbal or physical aggression
These aren't hurdles designed to keep you out — they're the honest conditions that give couples work the best chance to actually help, rather than cause further harm. Your screening call helps determine where you and your partner are today.
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."— Romans 8:28, NIV
What Couples Work Looks Like at Different Places on the Road to Recovery
The couples work shifts with each phase — meeting you exactly where you are on the road, never ahead of where you're ready to go.
Learning to be safe for each other again — establishing the ground rules, sobriety goals, and boundaries that make it possible to stay in the same room without causing more harm.
- →Establishing ground rules and safety agreements
- →Boundary work — what does safe look like for her right now?
- →Defining sobriety goals together and check-in structures
- →Deciding together if clinical support is needed for him
- →Learning to be in the same room without causing more harm
"Let your roots grow down into Him, and let your lives be built on Him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness."
Colossians 2:7, NLT
Grieving what was lost — together. As sobriety stabilizes, he begins to develop the empathy she needs, and the work of rebuilding trust begins one small, consistent act at a time.
- Couples-centered grieving — honoring what was lost
- Understanding the full impact of the betrayal on her and the family
- He is developing empathy and emotional connection as sobriety stabilizes
- Incrementally rebuilding trust through consistent action
- Increasing connection — learning to repair, not just apologize
"He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver; he will purify... and refine them like gold and silver."
Malachi 3:3, NIV
Not going back — becoming something new. Vision casting, new covenant, and stepping into a marriage neither of you has experienced before.
- Vision casting — what do we want to build going forward?
- New covenant — this is not a return to what was
- Redefining the relationship on stronger, honest ground
- Both articulating who they are individually — and who they are together
- Faith integration — what is God doing in this story?
"To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair."
Isaiah 61:3, NIV
Here's exactly what couples get.
Note: Her individual coaching support — 1:1 sessions, live groups, and community access — is listed under her Support For Her enrollment. What's listed here reflects the couples-specific work and what's included together as a couple.
Monthly Couples Coaching Sessions with Danielle
Danielle leads every couples session — Derek may join as a support presence if the couple prefers. Individual coaching sessions for both partners are included at each level, giving each person their own space to process alongside the couples work.
- →Couples-centered check-ins — how are you each doing, and how are you doing together?
- →Phase-specific curriculum work — Rooted, Refined, or Restored topics applied to your relationship
- →Communication and repair skills — learning to have hard conversations without causing more harm
- →Accountability and next steps — what you're each committing to before the next session
Phase-Matched Couples Curriculum
Your couples content is matched to where you are in the Rooted/Refined/Restored pathway. The work you're doing individually informs the framework for your sessions together — nothing is generic, and nothing is wasted.
Integration with Each Partner's Journey
Danielle holds awareness of both your individual recovery journeys and uses that to guide the couples work. With appropriate consent, she connects the dots — so the whole picture informs the couple's recovery.
Faith-Integrated Framework
Every session is held within a Christian framework — covenant theology, forgiveness (which is not the same as reconciliation), the theology of suffering, and the biblical vision for marriage restoration.
Tough Love Community Included + Up to 50% Off RITE Course Couples Support Bonus
When you enroll in Couples Support, the Tough Love Community is included in his enrollment — no additional monthly fee. He also receives up to 50% off the RITE Course curriculum (Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy — the self-paced video program at the heart of Men's Pathway), making it significantly easier for him to do his own individual recovery work alongside the couples work you're doing together.
RITE Course is the material he will need if he struggles with low self-awareness, empathy, and connection. It is not automatically included in the Rooted curriculum — the appropriate time and need for the group is something our team considers with you, based on where he is.
Individual Growth Access — Included for Both Partners Couples Support
Alongside your couples work, each of you has your own dedicated growth space:
- →Her: Access to The Garden Women's Growth Community — an exclusive, private, faith-rooted space
- →Her: Full access to the Video Curriculum for her specific phase, with personalized recommendations of exactly where to start — these teachings are equivalent to sessions with Dani. 10+ hours of video teaching, valued at $1,750+.
- →Him: Access to Tough Love Men's Growth Community
Real value, not filler: Her video curriculum alone represents 10+ hours of Dani's recorded teaching — session-equivalent content worth $1,750+ at her 1:1 rate, included in your couples enrollment.
This is the same video curriculum she'd have access to if she were enrolled in Support For Her alone — Rooted or Refined, depending on where she is. The biggest difference here is that couples sessions with Dani are part of the journey too, and your level (Supported or Held) determines how many hours of individual coaching are included alongside them.
Members-Only Add-On Rates Couples Support
As a Couples Support member you receive exclusive access to discounted add-on rates — available only to active members:
- →Additional 1:1 with Danielle — $175/session
- →1:1 Accountability Coaching with Derek — $140/session
- →Additional couples sessions — discounted member rate
Member Bonuses Couples Support
Couples Support members receive exclusive bonuses on top of their monthly coaching:
- ★Couples Supported: 20% off Premium Courses + $100 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her (Supported): 20% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Couples Held: 50% off Premium Courses + $250 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her (Held): 50% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Him: Commit to 6 months, on either tier, and Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy Course is included
- ★Her (Refined Phase): Shattered Dreams Grief Group is included as part of Refined (a $780 value) — also available for individual purchase outside of Rooted, Refined & Restored enrollment
Video-Only Membership Downgrade Option
Life happens, and not every couple is ready for ongoing 1:1 or couples coaching forever. If you've completed your initial 3-month commitment and want to step back from live coaching while staying connected to the material and the community, you can downgrade.
- →One-time fee: $797 per couple
- →Full access to the Video Curriculum for your phase (Rooted or Refined), including any new videos added during your access period
- →Continued community access — The Garden (Her) and Tough Love (Him) — you're not walking this alone, even without live coaching
- →Term: 12 months of access, expiring at month 13
- →Resume 1:1/Couples Coaching or re-purchase Video-Only access anytime — no obligation to continue
Video-Only Membership does not include priority scheduling or Members-Only Add-On Rates and bonuses, which are reserved for clients actively enrolled in 1:1 or Couples Coaching.
Screening Required
Every couple goes through a screening call with Danielle before the pathway begins. She assesses each partner's individual readiness and ensures that entering couples work won't cause further harm. Not every couple is ready — and that is okay.
Dani has lived the couples work.
Certified Professional Coach · Gottman Level 1 · Certified Restoration Coach · Certified APSATS Professional · 20+ Years in the Helping Professions · Former Addictions Counselor · Marriage Restored(She also has an honorary PhD in Boundaries — ask anyone who's worked with her.)
Danielle and her husband don't just facilitate recovery — they've lived it. When she sits across from a couple in the hardest season of their lives, she is not speaking from theory.
She knows what it feels like for a wife to sit in a room with the man who broke her and wonder if he will ever be safe. She knows what it costs a man to actually become trustworthy. And she knows that restoration — real restoration — is possible.
Her training in betrayal trauma, Gottman method, and restoration coaching gives her the tools to hold both partners in the room. Her theology gives her the framework to hold the covenant.
Apply for Couples Coaching →First We Find Where You Need to Begin — Then You Choose Your Level of Support.
Choose Your Level of Support
Both levels include phase-matched curriculum, community access, individual coaching for both partners, and faith-integrated support.
What you receive over 3 months (Rooted phase)
Renewable at your current rate
- ✓ 1x monthly 60-min couples coaching session with Danielle
- ✓ Integration with individual recovery journeys
- ✓ Screening call for placement
- ✓ Her: Access to The Garden Women's Growth Community
- ✓ Her: Full access to Video Curriculum for her specific phase, with personalized recommendations of where to start (equivalent to sessions with Dani — 10+ hrs, a $1,750+ value)
- ✓ Him: Access to Tough Love Men's Growth Community
- ★20% off Premium Courses + $100 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her: 20% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Him: Commit to 6 months and Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy Course is included
What you receive over 3 months (Rooted phase)
Renewable at your current rate
- ✓ 1x monthly 90-min couples coaching session with Danielle
- ✓ 2x monthly individual coaching for her (45 min)
- ✓ 2x monthly individual coaching for him (45 min)
- ✓ Integration with individual recovery journeys
- ✓ Screening call for placement
- ✓ Her: Access to The Garden Women's Growth Community
- ✓ Her: Full access to Video Curriculum for her specific phase, with personalized recommendations of where to start (equivalent to sessions with Dani — 10+ hrs, a $1,750+ value)
- ✓ Her: Private Podcast Vault access
- ✓ Her: Monthly Ask the Unfaithful session with Derek
- ✓ Her: Kayla's CO conference recording + monthly Q&A interview series
- ✓ Him: Access to Tough Love Men's Growth Community
- ✓ Additional bi-weekly check-in or group support
- ✓ Priority scheduling
- ★50% off Premium Courses + $250 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her: 50% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Him: Commit to 6 months and Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy Course is included
Moving Into Refined? Same Investment, Different Work.
Your monthly rate stays the same as Rooted —
what changes is the shape of your sessions together.
- ✓ 1x monthly 90-min couples coaching session with Danielle
- ✓ 1x monthly individual coaching for her (45 min)
- ✓ 1x monthly individual coaching for him (45 min)
- ✓ Continued access to The Garden (for her) and Tough Love (for him) communities
- ✓ All Refined-phase curriculum and homework
- ✓ Her: Shattered Dreams Grief Group included as part of Refined (a $780 value)
- ★20% off Premium Courses + $100 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her: 20% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Him: Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy Course included
- ✓ 2x monthly 90-min couples coaching sessions with Danielle
- ✓ 1x monthly individual coaching for her (45 min)
- ✓ 1x monthly individual coaching for him (45 min)
- ✓ Continued access to The Garden (for her) and Tough Love (for him) communities
- ✓ All Refined-phase curriculum and homework
- ✓ Her: Shattered Dreams Grief Group included as part of Refined (a $780 value)
- ✓ Priority scheduling
- ★50% off Premium Courses + $250 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Her: 50% off Free to Love or Boundaries Bootcamp
- ★Him: Restoring Intimacy Through Empathy Course included
When you are both ready
Couples Restored — Customized for Your Journey
You have both done some serious work, and you may be ready to step more fully into Restoration together — deciding what the rest of your life looks like, building a new covenant, and stepping into who God is calling you to become, both individually and as a couple.
Request a consult and we will discuss a customized path for you both, based on your unique needs at this place in your journey — and how we can walk with you toward where you feel led to go.
Vision Casting
What does the rest of your life look like — together or apart — built on something new?
New Covenant Work
This is not a return to what was. It is the intentional building of something neither of you has been before.
Faith & Legacy
What is God doing in your story? What testimony are you becoming? What do you want to leave behind?
"Investment by application — because your Restored journey is as unique as your story."
Apply for Couples Restored →Session Breakdown by Recovery Phase and by Level of Support
Individual and couples sessions are coaching sessions — her Support For Her curriculum and videos are separate from these sessions, but included in the monthly membership cost. Currently over 10 hours of content recorded by Danielle (with more being added!), which saves time of work in the sessions!
For Couples Supported, Derek may join conjoint sessions as a support presence if the couple prefers.
Check-In / Group reflects the additional bi-weekly check-in or group support included with Rooted Couples Held. Her Garden community and his Tough Love community are included at every level but aren't counted in these session numbers.
Per Month = total sessions across both partners each month, including check-ins or groups where included.
| Level | Couples Session | Her Individual | His Individual | Check-In / Group | Per Month | 3-Month Total |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Phase 1 — Rooted | ||||||
| Couples Supported | 1 × 60 min | 1 × 45 min | 1 × 45 min | Not included | 3 sessions | 9 sessions |
| Couples Held | 1 × 90 min | 2 × 45 min | 2 × 45 min | 2x monthly (bi-weekly) | 7 sessions | 21 sessions |
| Phase 2 — Refined | ||||||
| Couples Supported | 1 × 90 min | 1 × 45 min | 1 × 45 min | Not included | 3 sessions | 9 sessions |
| Couples Held | TWO 90-min sessions | 1 × 45 min | 1 × 45 min | Not included | 4 sessions | 12 sessions |
| Notice the shift in Refined & Held: individual sessions step down, but couples time doubles — two full 90-minute sessions with Danielle each month, dedicated to the relational repair work this phase is all about. | ||||||
| Phase 3 — Restored | ||||||
| Couples Restored | Custom — by application · investment based on your unique needs | |||||
Questions? [email protected]
They were where you are.
Couples Support
"Dani has been such a huge part of my healing journey. She has also played a huge role in my husband's steps to recovery from addiction and the restoration of my marriage. She always meets us with kindness, empathy, validation, and every single quality you look for in a coach. Brainspotting wasn't something we had even heard of before seeing Dani. The techniques were well explained and we both felt very comfortable during something that was emotionally overwhelming. We were given plenty of space to grieve and felt so much compassion from Dani during that process. We could both see an almost immediate change in the way we viewed those specific traumatic events in our lives.— A.F., NC
Also I love that she always has great communication and punctuality. That is so important to me with any professional relationship!"
Before You Enroll
Ready to Take the Next Step?
Start with a free 15-minute discovery call — or skip straight to a focused 2-hour couples consultation with Dani and leave with a clear, personalized plan.
For Couples Supported and Couples Held, Danielle speaks with both partners before enrollment begins. This is not a formality — it is her doing her job carefully. She assesses where each of you is individually, whether couples work is the right next step, and which level of support will serve you best.
Not every couple is ready for couples work right now — and if you're not, she will tell you that honestly and point you toward what you do need. That conversation protects both of you.
"Sometimes restoration doesn't look like staying together — but restoration is a promise for each of you, no matter what."
Request Your Discovery Call →Or Skip the Discovery Call
Book a 2-Hour Couples Consultation — $350
Skip the introductory call and come straight to a focused 2-hour consultation with Dani — together. She'll hear both of your stories, where you've been, and where you each want to go. You'll leave with a detailed, specific plan for the next 3–6 months tailored to your unique situation as a couple.
If RRR isn't the right fit, you still leave with a clear roadmap. If you decide to work together, your $350 consult fee is credited back toward your first month — or you can use it for an extra session. Your choice.
Book Your 2-Hour Couples Consultation ($350) →Or email us: [email protected]
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