You Don't Just Need to Survive This.
You Were Made to Be Restored.
A faith-centered, trauma-informed coaching program for women of Christian faith who want to stay rooted in love and truth while gaining expert guidance navigating intimate betrayal recovery — for every stage of the journey, starting right where you are, for every budget.
Find My Pathway →Not sure where to start? Take the free quiz →
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You discovered something that shattered your entire reality, and you don't know which end is up
- You're trying to hold your faith together while simultaneously questioning everything you believed
- You feel like you're going crazy — you want to believe him but you don't, you don't want to worry but you are, and you never questioned his values before and now you question who he even is
- Maybe he is doing the work, he says he's sober — but you are still angry, and unsure if or how you can ever forgive
- You want to know: Will I ever be okay again? Is God still in this?
You're not broken. Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do. And there is a path through this — one built specifically for where you are now, and one that can take you all the way to finding beauty for ashes, and even joy — regardless of whether your marriage is able to be restored or not.
"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted... to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning."— Isaiah 61:1, 3
Every Woman Starts Where She Is.
The Rooted, Refined & Restored Pathway meets you exactly where you are. No starting over. No catching up. Your story determines where you begin.
The ground has shifted beneath you. In the Rooted phase, we slow down, find your footing, and build the foundation that makes all restoration possible. You don't need to know the lingo or have the right words — we will walk you through every step.
"Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong." — Ephesians 3:17, NLT
You are ready to go deeper. In the Refined phase, we grieve what was lost, loosen the grip of who you thought you were, and begin to discover who you actually are — apart from the betrayal, apart from the pain, and rooted in something unshakeable.
"He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver; he will purify... and refine them like gold and silver." — Malachi 3:3, NIV
Restored is not about going back to who you were before. It is about becoming someone you may not have met yet. In this phase, you step into a new vision for your life — with or without reconciliation — anchored in your true identity in Christ.
"To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning." — Isaiah 61:3, NIV
Here's exactly what you get.
All tiers include The Garden community. Higher tiers add live coaching and small groups.
Phase-Matched Vault Content
Video curriculum, teaching modules, and workbooks matched to your exact phase. You're not going back to the beginning — you're starting where you actually are.
Access to The Garden Community
A private, faith-rooted community of women who get it — because they're in it too. No toxic positivity. No pressure to perform. Just women walking the same road, together.
45-Min Onboarding Session with Dani Rooted & Supported +
Before you take a single step in the program, you meet with Danielle personally. She reviews your assessment, understands your story, and maps exactly how you'll move through your phase.
Betrayal Recovery Workbooks & Video Teachings
Purpose-built workbooks for your phase — not generic journaling prompts, but clinically-informed, theologically-grounded tools for processing your specific recovery stage.
1:1 Coaching Support Rooted & Supported +
Monthly individual coaching sessions with your dedicated team coach — bringing expertise, presence, and personalized support to your unique recovery journey.
Live Group Sessions — Rooted & Supported or Rooted & Held Rooted & Supported +
2x monthly live group sessions included with both Rooted & Supported and Rooted & Held — community, coaching, and real conversation with women who understand.
Private Podcast Vault Access Rooted & Held only
Exclusive audio content for Rooted & Held members — teaching, encouragement, and support you can take with you wherever you go.
Monthly "Ask the Unfaithful" Session with Derek Rooted & Held only
A rare and powerful opportunity — Danielle's husband Derek joins the group monthly to answer the questions betrayed women most want to ask the unfaithful partner. Unscripted. Honest. Redemptive.
Bonus: Kayla's Story — In Her Own Words Rooted & Held only
Kayla is Danielle and Derek's adult daughter — and she was elementary school age when her parents were walking through betrayal and recovery. As a Rooted & Held member you receive an exclusive audio recording of Kayla speaking at a women's conference in Colorado, sharing her experience growing up with parents in recovery. Unscripted, honest, and unlike anything else you'll find in this space.
And there's more coming — submit your questions for Kayla to answer in a monthly interview series available exclusively to Rooted & Held members.
Couples Add-On Available Add-On
Rooted & Supported members may add couples sessions at $190/session. Rooted & Held members receive a discounted couples rate of $175/session — because reconciliation, when it's right, deserves to be within reach.
Hi. I'm Dani.
Certified Professional Coach · Gottman Level 1 · Certified Restoration Coach · Certified APSATS Professional · 20+ Years in the Helping Professions · Former Addictions CounselorI know what it's like to sit on the floor of your bathroom wondering if your life is actually over. I know what it's like to love God and still be furious at Him. I know what it's like to smile at church while barely holding yourself together.
I also know what it's like to come through it. Not around it, not over it — through it. My husband and I have our own story of betrayal and marriage restoration, and it is the reason this work is the most important thing I do.
I built the program I desperately needed and couldn't find anywhere.
Dani is also 20 years sober from alcohol and substances — and knows firsthand what it takes to get sober and stay sober. She brings that hard-won wisdom into every room she enters.
I am not here to fix you. You aren't broken. I am here to be a guide who has walked this road and knows the terrain.
I'm Ready to Begin →Choose Your Level of Support
All levels of support include access to The Garden — our exclusive, private, faith-rooted community.
Full curriculum access · 1 full year of video & content access
- ✓ Self-paced, on your timeline
- ✓ Access to The Garden community
- ✓ Video teachings + worksheets
- ✓ No coaching calls included (1:1 coaching available at $185/session · couples coaching at $250/session)
3-month minimum · then month-to-month
Founding Member Rate — 2026
Regular rate $447/mo after founding period ends
Your rate is locked in for life — as long as you stay active, it never increases.
- ✓ 45-min onboarding session with Dani
- ✓ 1x monthly 1:1 Coaching Support
- ✓ 2x monthly live group (Rooted & Supported)
- ✓ Completion session with Dani
- ✓ Couples add-on available: $190/session
- ★ Bonus: Rooted eBook download — prompts, checklists & tools (a $29 value)
- ★ 20% off Premium Courses (Shattered Dreams, Tough Love Group, Boundary Course)
- ★ $100 off Soul Care Retreats
3-month minimum · then month-to-month
Founding Member Rate — 2026
Regular rate $597/mo after founding period ends
Your rate is locked in for life — as long as you stay active, it never increases.
- ✓ 45-min onboarding + completion with Dani
- ✓ 2x monthly 1:1 Coaching Support
- ✓ 2x monthly live group (Rooted & Held)
- ✓ Private Podcast Vault access
- ✓ Monthly Ask the Unfaithful session (Derek)
- ★ Bonus: Kayla's conference recording + monthly Q&A interview series
- ✓ Couples add-on: $175/session (discounted)
- ★ Bonus: Rooted eBook download (a $29 value)
- ★ 50% off Premium Courses
- ★ $250 off Soul Care Retreats
Pay Annually — Get 2 Months Free
Commit to a full year and we'll give you 2 months free. Pay for 10, get 12 — locked in at your founding member rate for the entire year.
Founding member rate locked for full year · Onboarding month billed separately
Founding Member Price Lock: Join in 2026 and your rate is locked in for as long as you remain an active month-to-month member. Your price will never increase — no matter what our regular rates become.
Not sure where to start? Take the quiz →
They were where you are.
Your questions answered.
Questions? [email protected]
The Road Back to Intimacy
Is Through Empathy.
And empathy is only possible with sobriety and offloading shame.
See the Program →Self-paced curriculum · Tough Love Community included for 12 weeks · 1 full year of content access
You broke something. You know it.
- You've said "I'm sorry" more times than you can count — and it hasn't been enough, because it wasn't backed by genuine change
- You've tried to white-knuckle your way through recovery and ended up back in the same place
- You don't fully understand why you did what you did, which terrifies you
- You want to be the man your wife needs, but you don't know how to get there — or if it's even possible
- You're afraid that if you actually look at the damage you caused, it will destroy you
The RITE Group exists for men who are done with excuses and ready to walk the road of genuine accountability — and who are willing to do the work to become genuinely trustworthy.
"Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."— Psalm 139:23–24
Here's exactly what you get.
12+ Video Lessons Across 3 Phases
A structured video curriculum moving through Rooted (foundation & surrender), Refined (inventory, healing & identity), and Restored (integration, amends & legacy). Each lesson is built around the real work — not surface-level behavior management, but the deeper transformation that actually makes a man safe.
Companion Worksheets for Every Lesson
Every video lesson includes a companion worksheet — plus bonus worksheets for deeper application. This is not passive content. You will be asked to do the work on paper, in your own words, in your own life.
Self-Paced · 1 Full Year of Access
Work through the program at your own pace — no cohort to keep up with, no pressure to be further along than you are. You have one full year of access from the date of purchase to move through all three phases.
1:1 Accountability Coaching with Derek Add-On
Derek is available for individual accountability coaching sessions alongside your RITE Group work — $140/session. As a man who has done this work himself and is completing his ICF coaching certification, he brings both lived experience and professional training to every session.
Tough Love Community — Included for 12 Weeks
Your RITE Group enrollment includes 12 weeks of access to the Tough Love Community — live group coaching with Dani, hot seat coaching, and member-driven support from men doing the same hard work.
- →2x per month — Tuesday nights at 7:00 PM via audio call with Dani
- →Hot seat coaching with Dani — live, personal, and real
- →Cohorts of no more than 7 men — so no one gets lost in the crowd
After your 12 weeks, continue at $147/month or pay for 7 months and get the 8th FREE — $1,029 for 8 months (saving $147).
“I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate.”— Romans 7:15, NLT · The Apostle Paul
We Know Both Sides of This Table.
Danielle Lew — Certified Professional Coach · APSATS Certified · 20+ Years ExperienceDerek Lew — ICF Credentialed Coach (in progress) · Restored Partner
The RITE Group wasn't born in a clinical textbook. It was born out of our own story — a marriage that was broken by betrayal and put back together through the kind of hard, slow, honest work that most people give up on.
Derek co-facilitates as a man who has done this work — and is now completing his ICF credentialed coaching certification. He sat in the fire. He understands what it costs to actually become trustworthy, and what it feels like to be met with grace on the other side.
Danielle brings 20+ years of expertise, APSATS training in partner trauma, and a theology of redemption that doesn't let anyone off easy — but also doesn't leave anyone without hope.
Together we built the program we both needed, but didn't know it — and when we found it, we decided to make it even better!
See the Program →They were where you are.
One Program. Three Ways to Pay.
All payment options give you the same full access — 12+ lessons, all worksheets, bonus materials, and 1 full year to complete the program.
- ✓ Full program access
- ✓ 12+ video lessons
- ✓ All worksheets + bonuses
- ✓ 1 full year of access
- ★ Bonus: Onboarding call with Dani
- ✓ Full program access
- ✓ 12+ video lessons
- ✓ All worksheets + bonuses
- ✓ 1 full year of access
- ✓ Full program access
- ✓ 12+ video lessons
- ✓ All worksheets + bonuses
- ✓ 1 full year of access
Doing the Couples Pathway? Tough Love Community is included in your Couples enrollment — and you receive up to 50% off the RITE Group curriculum. Learn about the Couples Pathway →
Want Additional Support?
1:1 Accountability Coaching with Derek
Personal support alongside your RITE Group work from a man who has walked this road.
$140 / session
Tough Love Community — After 12 Weeks
Continue month-to-month or get 1 month FREE when you pay for the rest of the year.
$147 /mo
or $1,029 for 8 months
1 month FREE · save $147
Your questions answered.
Questions? [email protected]
You're Not Just Two People Trying to Survive This...
You are two wounded people learning — and unlearning — new things.
You are two of God's children holding a powerful testimony in the making.
Sometimes restoration doesn't look like staying together...
But restoration is a promise for each of you — no matter what.
Learn About Couples Coaching →The most important thing to understand about couples work after betrayal.
Betrayal trauma breaks the attachment bond. When a couple tries to do "couples work" before each partner has done their own individual healing, they often continue to wound each other.
He is trying to learn how to be sober — maybe for the first time in decades — only now with having to face all the shame, guilt, and remorse, living in fear of losing her and his family, and without healthy coping or communication skills. She is trying to survive what feels like the end of everything she believed was real.
Both partners need supportive help from specialists who can meet each of them right where they are — with high accountability, gentle support, and evidence-based approaches consistently throughout each phase of the journey.
"The most powerful couples work happens when both partners are doing their own work at the same time."
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."— Romans 8:28, NIV
What Couples Work Looks Like at Different Places on the Road to Recovery
- →Establishing ground rules and safety agreements
- →Boundary work — what does safe look like for her right now?
- →Defining sobriety goals together and check-in structures
- →Learning to be in the same room without causing more harm
"Let your roots grow down into Him, and let your lives be built on Him." — Colossians 2:7, NLT
- →Couples-centered grieving — honoring what was lost
- →He is developing empathy as sobriety stabilizes
- →Incrementally rebuilding trust through consistent action
- →Learning to repair, not just apologize
"He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver." — Malachi 3:3, NIV
- →Vision casting — what do we want to build going forward?
- →New covenant — this is not a return to what was
- →Redefining the relationship on stronger, honest ground
- →Faith integration — what is God doing in this story?
"A crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning." — Isaiah 61:3, NIV
Dani has lived the couples work.
Certified Professional Coach · Gottman Level 1 · Certified Restoration Coach · Certified APSATS Professional · 20+ Years in the Helping Professions · Former Addictions Counselor · Marriage RestoredDanielle and her husband don't just facilitate recovery — they've lived it. When she sits across from a couple in the hardest season of their lives, she is not speaking from theory.
She knows what it feels like for a wife to sit in a room with the man who broke her and wonder if he will ever be safe. She knows what it costs a man to actually become trustworthy. And she knows that restoration — real restoration — is possible.
Her training in betrayal trauma, Gottman method, and restoration coaching gives her the tools to hold both partners in the room. Her theology gives her the framework to hold the covenant.
Apply for Couples Coaching →Choose Your Level of Support.
From early to later stages — we got you.
- ✓ Phase-matched couples curriculum
- ✓ The Garden community for her
- ✓ Tough Love Community access for him
- ✓ Faith-integrated framework
- ✓ No live coaching sessions included
- ★10% off RITE Group for him while enrolled
- ✓ Everything in Couples Guided
- ✓ 1x monthly 60-min couples session with Danielle
- ✓ Integration with individual healing pathways
- ✓ Screening call for placement
- ★20% off Premium Courses + $100 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Tough Love Community included for him
- ★Up to 50% off RITE Group for him
- ✓ Everything in Couples Supported
- ✓ 1x monthly 90-min couples session with Danielle
- ✓ Priority scheduling
- ✓ Monthly Ask the Unfaithful & Ask the Kid Q&A
- ★50% off Premium Courses + $250 off Soul Care Retreats
- ★Tough Love Community included for him
- ★Up to 50% off RITE Group for him
Couples Restored — Customized for Your Journey
By the time you reach Restored, we know you. Your investment is based on the level of support that will serve you best at this final — and most hopeful — stage of the journey.
"Investment by application — because your Restored journey is as unique as your story."
Apply for Couples Restored →Questions? [email protected]
Your questions answered.
Questions? [email protected]